Love Lessons from Great Writers

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A whole lot of love flowing your way!

You can transmute love, ignore it, muddle it, but you can never pull it out of you. I know by experience that the poets are right:  love is eternal. E.M. Forrester , A Room With A View

There is no safe investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket — safe, dark, motionless, airless – it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell. C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves

Nothing is mysterious, no human relation. Except love. Susan Sontag, As Consciousness Is Harnessed to Flesh:  Journals and Notebooks, 1964-1980

Of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps the most fatal to true happiness. Bertrand Russell, The Conquest of Happiness

The more one judges, the less one loves. Honore de Balzac, Physiologie Du Marriage

A purpose of human life, no matter who is controlling it, is to love whoever is around to be loved. Kurt Vonnegut, The Sirens of Time

#PeaceHugs, Jone

U.S. Post Election: A Call for Love Deficit Reduction

Historically, leadership’s purpose, especially public leadership, had a lot to do with higher order love: service to advance greater societal good for love of country and love for people – especially the vulnerable and voiceless – to create a humane world.

Today, it seems that more airtime is given to fear-based punditry than higher order love. At a 2009 town hall forum, New Orleans 4 th grader Terrence Scott asked U.S. President Obama, “why do people hate you, why, they’re supposed to love you?”

The President explained that not everyone hates him, in fact quite a few voted to elect him, and the adult crowd guffawed. This ‘out of the mouth of babes’ question resonates as we move forward with President Obama leading the nation for four more years.

Love, American-Style

Clearly, there’s a love deficit. This isn’t some romantic, new-age concept but an intensely sensible leadership imperative. In 2010, the Fetzer Institute benchmarked American’s attitudes on love. In its Survey of Love and Forgiveness in American Society, Americans were asked about “meaningful love” that was expressed in a manner that sounds a lot like a leadership job description: being compassionate, helping others, sacrifices, acts of kindness, anticipating needs, respect, spending time, and community involvement .

U.S. Love Deficit

Fetzer’s findings illustrate how hungry Americans are for meaningful love:

  • Mainstreet Can Lower the Love-Deficit  An overwhelming 95% of Americans responded that more meaningful love is needed in the world
  • 94% of the general population surveyed recognized that more meaningful love is needed here in America
  • 89% agreed that more love is needed in U.S. communities
  • 77% of Americans said that they need more meaningful love in the industry or field in which they work

Clearly, there’s a love deficit. This isn’t some romantic, new-age concept but an intensely sensible leadership imperative.

Mainstreet Can Lower the Love-Deficit

We’re ALL leaders! From Mainstreet, we’re leading our lives and making choices every day about how we’ll influence those around us. Let’s encourage Congress and the President to work on the fiscal deficit. Meanwhile, we Mainstreet leaders can lead the country toward more meaningful, higher order love for ourselves, our families, our communities, our workplaces and our nation.

If, as Mother Teresa said, “hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than hunger for bread,” there is no a worthier cause for Mainstreet. What can we do today to begin reducing America’s love deficit?